I have lived in this world for 20 years now. and i feel, I thought late and realized that life is short, but very valuable and expensive that you always have to set a new goal everytime you achieve one and never let yourself down when you fail.
and these are some of the life lessons I got from 20 years of living
here we go ………………
You are here in this world to be a winner
When you are down or lose your enthusiasm, reflect on things that can strengthen you mentally again. Remember your struggles that you have done. How much energy, mind and material have you put out.
You have been able to survive and fight this far is proof that you are a formidable warrior. And only a tough warrior deserves to be the real winner. Believe in your own abilities, and believe that you can be a winner in this life.
It’s not your fault if you were born poor, but its your fault if you die poor
You cant choose to born with a silver spoon, you cant choose to born in the rich family. you must know what you have and you must be grateful for it. Get it to work for you, don’t be stylish to look rich be realistic. grow yourself so you can die in peace.
Get out of your comfort zone, don’t just lie on the bed at home
Get up from your bed, go to find new experiences, go far to school outside your city of residence or even abroad, traveling. get out of your comfort zone, seek as much experience as possible
Time is your best friend
Without time, you will not acquire the knowledge you passionate. Without time, your investment will not double. Without time, your loved ones won’t know you love them.
Love your family, most important priority
I dont live in the same house with my family since i’m in college, it is very hard to stay in touch face to face with them, because were LDR now, the only thing i can do is to text and talk to them on phone whenever i have time. I also just realized since I was away from them. that their time with them is very precious. be thankful if you are close to your family now. spend your time with your family, even if just watching tv.
Be mindful about your phone
According to my screen time on my Phone, I spent 8 Hours 30 minutes on my phone per-day. Instagram was most used app, it almost 1 hours 30 minutes per day and Youtube almost 1 hours 10 minutes per day. Thats crazy! i have wasted a lot of my time. to battle this, i re-arranged my apps on home screen to trick myself from checking any social media excessively or on youtube I subscribe to good channels, so that only good shows appear on my youtube homepage.
Degree isn’t everything; Smart and work harder
My parents always compare myself to my cousin because he graduated and entered the top university in Indonesia majoring in math science. or my parents makes him looks very smart in my family eyes. In the past, I hated it, because I couldn’t follow it, I couldn’t take that major. I’m not good in math and now i feel ok. for me now, degree is important but that’s not everything. the best motivation is to prove yourself then, you can give a prove to others. I am also in college now, with the paths and majors i choose, I worked hard to get the majors and get my current jobs that I loved anyway, without having to be jealous and follow other people. and college gives you mindset how you can see the world in different perspective and meet people from various backgrond and uniqueness. but remember degree is not everything, you can be successful without having to degree in your own way.
Know what you want and big motivation why do you do that
Know what you want and big motivation why do you do that. so, its hard to be tired, you can stay consistent discipline, which is why you can achieve impossible things. I remember the sentence one a professor told me, “Hey Life is not easy, dont think you’re great. stay hungry!” competitiveness is making you overcome yourself.
Management Money is must !
Teach yourself how to manage your personal finance, the earlier, the better , remember the time is your friend.
Know the price per value of things you bought
Only buy things that you really need, or provide value for. When you plan to buy a new item, divide the price with how long that thing is going to last. don’t follow other people. For example, your friend buys a new iPhone at a very fantastic price, you also want to buy it to look rich. that’s wrong. buy something that you really need, If you need a phone, there are many phones that are much cheaper than the iPhone and the quality is no less good than the iPhone. but, if you really really need the iphone, consider carefully the price of the iphone with how long it will last.
Do something that challenges you, that scared you
As an Introvert, it’s hard to speak in front of a lot of people. One day, my professor gave me the opportunity to give a speech in front of students and other professors. At first I’m scared, I didn’t know what to say, I was afraid of speaking wrong, and I was afraid if I forgot what I said before, but I felt challenged to do it. and I can do it.
Stay away from negative people in your life
keep good friends with people like this but don’t get too close, because they will have a negative influence slowly if you do not control yourself.
Read more books
“Book is a window to the world” definitely already familiar with that sentence,right?. I’m also still trying to enjoy reading books as much as possible. Read in the dorms,in class, on the train, I even lost my favorite book on the train, the book “Sebuah seni untuk bersikap bodo amat” by Mark Manson. I really love that book, ahh! moreover the book was given by someone special who was quite influential in my life haha. but, I am grateful that a few weeks later lost the book, the book was returned by a good person.
Self awareness to be happy
You have to know yourself. what do you want? what is your value? What are your weakness and strength?
Haha to be honest, I love to think until i realize i can’t sleep at night because i overthink, if you like me. this article maybe help you. it helped me. cara berhenti overthinking
You’re The One Who Should Control Your Life
Often times we allow ourselves to be carried away by the flow of our own lives. In fact, we should be in control of our lives, not life that controls us. We are the ones who have control over the life we live. Where do you want to take it and what you want it to be like later.
If you want to determine how your future will be, take control and direct your life from now on.
Practice gratitude and always be grateful for what you have
Be grateful every second. grateful for what God loves you, grateful for what you have achieved, grateful for what you have. being grateful really brings positive energy.
Thank you for reading, I haven’t opened this blog in a long time. OMG, suddenly I miss and want to write this down, as a reminder for me too if I have started weird again.